Why? Why? And Why?

These are the only questions that have made me who I am today.

But if someone had asked me these questions a few years back, the answers would have come straight from my mouth without much thought.

These days, however, most of the time, I ask myself why, why and why.

The answers that come after asking these questions have finally helped me identify deeper, more meaningful answers that provide more insights and are more beneficial to me.

Have you ever tried this in your life?

If not, I suggest you start questioning your actions and reactions.

It will help you reflect and see which side your actions align with.

For instance, you might yell at your partner, your parents or your friends.

Ask yourself, why did you yell at your partner?

The answer might be, “Because she yelled at me.”

But why did she yell at you?

The answer might be that you did something wrong.

Or perhaps she couldn’t find something she had placed on the bed, sofa or table.

Ask yourself, did you move it?

If not, you can help her find it and calmly tell her that you didn’t move it.

But just because she yells at you doesn’t mean you have to yell at her. Saying that she yelled at you first is simply an excuse for your reaction.

Ask yourself:

Why am I yelling?

Because she yelled at me first.

But why am I yelling just because she is yelling at me?

Can’t I answer quietly and calmly?

Why am I like this? Why?

This realisation can help you gain better control over your actions, handle situations more calmly and develop better habits.

The same goes for your parents.

Why are you yelling?

Because they are not listening to you, or they are taking too much time.

But why are you yelling?

They are your parents. Can’t you speak slowly and calmly?

Why can’t you wait a little longer?

The deeper you question yourself in every situation, the stronger you can become and the healthier your relationships can be.

Start from today and see the changes.

The way to uplift your soul.